This Is Why Your Motivation Is Trash
I have talked with many people and they tell me that they need to get motivated to do things. It sounds something like this: "I need your motivation, Rodney!" or "If I was motivated like you, I would be in shape!" Blah, blah, blah! This is not about motivation. Actually, I can't stand motivation. Screw your motivation! Your little motivation will keep you a step behind and a dollar short.
Motivation is an emotion that comes and goes. Sometimes, I am motivated to train in the gym and other times I am not. Sometimes, I am motivated to speak Spanish to native speakers at 5:00 a.m., other times, I am not. So, what is it then. This is about the commitment of setting the goal and doing everything you can to get the stuff done.
Ever walked in a gym on January 1st at 5:00 a.m.? That is motivation! Walk in that same gym in April at 5:00 a.m. after 4 months of working out, that is commitment! It is simple to do the work when you are motivated and excited. Now think how bad it sucks when you lack the motivation to keep going. What keeps you going? What keeps you moving forward?
We have all been there. God knows I have... I wake up in the morning around 4:00 a.m. and my day starts with meditation, working out, and Spanish. There are days I do not want to wake up. I really don't. I want to stay in the bed like everyone else. But the deep commitment I made to myself for better spiritual and mental health supersede my lacking motivation. The commitment I made to myself for better physical health overrides my lack of motivation. My commitment to speaking another language is bigger than a couple days worth of feeling good about the task. Get it? I am not perfect, don't get it twisted. I just know that motivation is crap, and we need to do things when we rather not.
So, let me share why your commitment will move you further than your emotional motivation. First things first, please understand that the personal commitment you make to yourself is a big deal. I know, it is easier to disregard and break those commitments, but by doing so, you do yourself a huge disservice. Listen, by giving in to your emotions, you cost yourself the opportunity to activate your grit and push through. The only way to move forward and accomplish something of value is to do it when you rather not.
This is why I suggest that you put your goals in your calendar. It forces you to make time and think systematically about the most important things to achieve. When you do things based on your motivation, you do them because you "want to". When it is based on a commitment, you do them because you "have to."
Ok, your motivation for something is not going to be enough to accomplish anything worth while. This is the fundamental piece about grit we should all realize. Your grit for something does not activate until it gets challenging. Anybody can do something when they are feeling great! Just remember, when motivation leaves, your grit comes. Oh by the way, when grit comes, so does true achievement.